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Reader Email: How Can I Get Him Hard Again?

The Eroticist’s Advice 

Mrs. Princess I love the blog. It’s hot! Can I ask a question for the advice part?

After a man cums how long do you suck his dick to make him hard so you fuck him again? Do you have any techniques to speed up the process?

-Signed, Sucking Him Up For Round Two

Thanks for stopping by and reading! I hope I’m helping you get your weekly fix. I do have an answer for your question.

Every man is different. I don’t know yours, so all I can do is give you generalities.

Some men are quicker to gain an erection after cumming than others, and there’s a few factors that go into that. First, you must look at the age of your man. The younger he is, the sooner it can happen. If he’s older, he isn’t hopeless, but the timeframe between ejaculation and sequel erection will be longer than 15-30 minutes as opposed to how it would be with a younger man. Men reach their sexual peak at about 19 years old (boy how do I miss getting my back blown out by some tenders when was I was 18–mmph! scrumptious).  At that age all men are more likely to cum then get hard again faster than you can blink, but cumming isn’t the same as having an orgasming.

Think of cumming more as the organic result of the act of sex. If you need more clarification of what I’m talking about, check out this post on multi-orgasmic men I wrote not long ago. He could be experiencing much more without releasing any ejaculate. This is something that is ageless too, and it’s possible for any man to experience.

But how does one get their man hard again if they don’t want to wait for nature to take an unassisted course?

My Advice:

Hit his zones.


The picture above  shows the erogenous zones of both the male and female anatomies. Everything in deep red is a spot to access to get your partner turned on. My personal favorites are the neck (side-right), and the V of his crotch. The inner thigh is a good one too. The V is my first go to when I need him erect again quickly.

Graze it with the side of your face, your lips. Blow on it softly. Lick it. Be the turtle to win this race.

Keep your eyes on his dick. Watch it slowly rise. Cup his balls. Suck the tip, then slip all the way down. The dick should be ready for riding in minutes.

That shit should have him begging you to give up your secrets so that he can know how to evade your powers when he just doesn’t want to be reigned over. But will he put up a fight?  He will be sliding into you before he can say “pound me”.





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Reader Email: Salty, Sticky Snowballs In His Mouth

The Eroticist’s Advice 

Dear Eroticist,

Is it okay for my girlfriend to give me a surprise snowball? We’ve been together over a year.

–Always surprised.

Dear “Always Surprised”,

Before I jump into answering your question, let me take time to  give a breakdown of your question for the novices.

I am not sure of the level of sexual education of my readers when it comes to fetishes and other diversions of what the Average Joe would call the norm, so I will briefly take time to school the ignorant of what exactly a snowball is.

Ahem! Shall we?

A snowball in the terms of sex play is the same in color as the snowballs we make outside during winter. It is white, but this type of snowball is also sticky, sometimes slippery. Some would say slimy. Eh, maybe.

Where it comes from is deep within a man’s balls. The ejaculate is the meat and potatoes of the sex snowball. It is that which makes it sticky, but it doesn’t quite come together to be more than what the receiver can swallow until the receiver decides to share it with the partner who spit it, or another present who wants a taste.

That’s right, the snowball isn’t exactly a snowball until the ejaculate has been swapped and spilled into the mouth of one partner from another.



Everyone on the same page? Good!

Now, let’s get down to business.

Our reader wrote in to ask a question on a subject which seems to concern two issues: social taboos and possibly respect. I am not sure of the numbers or average of couples who engage in snowball sex play, but I am confident in asserting most men of those couples would not admit they like it and take part in it if confronted with the topic in a public forum.

Ask the average, hard-working man would he eat his cum, and you will likely get an emphatic “hell no!”.

There’s something special about tasting yourself, and a large number of men would akin such an act as feminine. Do I agree with them? Not really. I say, “how bold is one to be for them to ask someone else to taste them and not taste themselves”. I think that’s more offensive.

Still, one has to be comfortable in their own sex life. To cross such social boundaries, whether real or perceived, one should take the courtesy of discussing play that may make one feel uncomfortable.

For reader “Always Surprised”, here’s My Advice:

Before you have sex with her again, have a sit down about this and hash out your issue with her on the matter. Don’t walk away from the topic until you have set clear boundaries of what you would like out of sex with her, what is completely off-limits, and what you are willing to work your way into doing. Be firm and resilient to any sex play which you feel violates you.

Make a trade-off. What else can she do to you, or you for her gratification, in place of snowballing? Attack this problem as adamantly as it requires. Although society has likely had its influence on you as far  what society says is feminine and wrong for a man to take part in sexually, it’s more to do with what you think of your own practices behind closed doors.

If it’s the taste that’s mostly taking you by surprise, clean up your diet. You know what they always say, more natural fruits and juices, and less of the bitter foods and meats, and your cum will taste better in no time.

How’s that for sucking it all down in one gulp?

If nothing else, turn your back to her and run in the opposite direction when she comes up for the passing.

You don’t have to take it.

I mean, can you really still call it a surprise?


Wait, no.

Was this email really just an opportunity for “Always Surprised” to swap his semen stories with me? Sir, no thanks.

Snowballs aren’t for me. I like my cum hot and down my own hatch. Thank you very much!

–See ya next week when we will read and advise a reader on taking it to the streets and lying down and grinding that meat. Hot pavement be damned? We’ll see!


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Yes, He Is Multi-Orgasmic: The Complexities Of Male Sexuality

Women have been chastising men for just sticking their dicks in any and every orifice they could find for years, saying things like, “that’s all they need to get a nut”. I am here to tell you that isn’t necessarily true. Men can be a bit more complex than that sexually. Men can be multi-orgasmic, but it’s what’s in their minds that makes it easier for them to do it.


I have experienced mutliograsmic men–two of them in a row, maybe more I have had more. I just know of two from watching their experiences with me, and listening to them describe how the sexual experiences was for them with me and what made it happen for them. It’s kind of expected now. So expected, I wrote the male characters who sleep with the lead female in my upcoming book as multi-orgasmic. Some will find it unbelievable, but it is not.

The younger character has the most orgasms, and ejaculations, than any other male in the book. I didn’t consciously write the storyline that way simply because he is the youngest. It’s just what made sense to me knowing how into this woman this character was. Wanting her for years, he finally got the chance. After their first sexual experience he always had multiple orgasms, when he was with her and when he was not.


For a man to have more than one orgasm with their partner per session, there must be an intense emotional connection between the two for it to happen.  As I wrote it, this young man in the book is not only excited and finally gratified to experience copulation with her, but he does have deep feelings for her as a woman. He admires her. He treasures her.

Yes, training, one facet of it such as edging, CAN help a man to learn to train his body to orgasm more than once during an encounter, or make the orgasm more intense. Kegels can also be used as part of training to control his orgasm for multiplicity. The guys I have personal experience with, they didn’t masturbate or do any special techniques. It was all in their heads.

“I’ve already had sex with you many times in my mind before I even laid down with you.”–the words of Mr. A to me.

Truthfully, I am offended when I hear women say that men are just fine with sticking their dicks in a hole and going to town for a few minutes, that he can cum from a few gyrations on top of a person and feel just as satisfied as I do, that there is nothing to worry about when pleasing a man sexually. When people say that, they negate all possible intimacy man can have, especially when both partners are expected to have a deepness for each other.


After an orgasm, one’s brain releases “happy endorphins“. These chemicals in the brain tell us what we just did was great, the best ever, “you should do it again”. So when a man has more than orgasm per session, more and more of these endorphins are released. Not only can the acts of his multiple orgasms be the result of his intensity for you as a whole, each response can also deepen his feelings for you each and every time he does have two or three more orgasms while he’s in you.

In my humble opinion, it is worth it to learn about the sexual complexities of a man. You are missing out on so much, much more than just having someone jumping up and down in you, much more important than an attitude of men and their sexuality as throw away afterthoughts upon your pleasure. When you take the time to consider his sexuality as a myriad of emotions, you could end up having sexual experiences with your male partner that leave you more pleased because he has at his best ultimately spiritually.


It’s all in our heads, what we deem great sex to be. It’s never just about the friction, and I never write that simply. Catch up. We are on some next level shit.

Fake Bitches Have Fake Orgasms

What does a fake orgasm provide in saving the world? When you fake a good cum, you hurt you, you hurt him, you hurt me. The love you think you’re saving would have been better served if you’d of just kept it real.

Let your limbs go limp.



Open your mouth.

Think about pleasantness.

Visual the porn you’re making.

Squeeze your pussy.

Relax your pussy.



Most of it is just letting your body go. You don’t need good dick to have a good orgasm. Your orgasm is all about you. Girl, I could show you how to cum just by him grazing it.

The energy you spent on faking, you could have been clearing your head and glazing some dick at the same time if you’d just let yourself.

Give yourself a massage and get it to the edge before he comes to you. Start the process. Help yourself. This isn’t about him. It’s about you; it’s about us.

When you fake orgasms, you hurt all women. You make these men and women think they’re in control of how good your body feels.

Relax, girl and just push it all ooouuuuttttttJada



Year 3, And My Pussy Was Already A Loosey Goosey

Partners get the wandering eye when they lack good loving at home. Shit, they’ll leave because of a busted, ran through pussy too. They’ll leave because of anything. You can’t make a person stay with you who doesn’t want you. Why would you think daily sex, damn near ’round the clock would provide you any security?

If all you have is a hard dick, what are you waiting on to get your shit together? Another sexy guy with a big dick to come along and steal her, because he has money, assets, and valuable insights? Don’t listen to me. Do what you want. When he’s moving his boxes in on top of your cum stained shorts, drop me a line and thank me later for dropping the warning before the storm on ya.

Come to me, baby. I love it when they say, “you were right again, Princess”.

I once was told by a person who was going through a bitter and long divorce, that she didn’t understand why her man would cheat with multiple women when she gave up the pussy to him constantly. Well, I have a few guesses. That pussy is old to him. It’s raggedy. You look like shit in the morning. You don’t have shit to talk about other than reality TV. Your idea of a well-spent day off is getting drunk and passing out.

I wouldn’t sit on here and say I haven’t been guilty of doing some of those things, save for the latter, but I keep them to a minimal and make myself well-rounded. Any adult looking for a relationship or trying to keep one together should be the same way.

In my last post, I said to be available for sex to reduce chances of him cheating. I stand by that post. In the grand scheme of life, I believe it holds weight. I also believe that anyone that has nothing going on for them and has nothing they can bring to the table of a relationship, emotionally, spiritually, or otherwise tangibly, deserves to be cheated on.

All relationships are about what you can get from the other partner that will support you as a person, a whole being. Humans need those connections for better quality of life. There is nothing to gain from a man who brings nothing, but his hard dick and bad habits. Bad habits are so much easier to accept when the whole package of a person is valuable. If every time she’s going through something with her socialite friends, all you can do is pull your dick out and say, “Baby, come ride on this. I’ll make it better.”, plan your move back to your roommates–starting last week. Your dick isn’t that good to sustain that shit for years and years.

Friends, if you meet someone and all they want to do is fuck your brains out, they have some shit with them, and it ain’t all good.


Run or prepare to go through hell shaking them off. They will make you out to be the bad person for dumping them, but you have to do it soon. I’ve heard some pretty bad divorce stories where the better partner didn’t know how to cut it off in the beginning of dating. They ended up pity fucking all the way through marriage.

Save yourself. Don’t be a statistic. Give the always horny girl, but ain’t never doing shit else or have anything worth listening to, say one or two fucks, then disappear.