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Reader Email: We Did A Threesome Now He’s Falling For Her

The Eroticist’s Advice

We’re back on for answering reader questions. Here’s the latest:

Dear Eroticist,

I took a friend with me to go and see a girl that is what we describe as a “pass around”.  This girl sleeps with multiple guys at one time. It’s nothing special for about 4 men to show up at her house and she’ll let them all in and let them all fuck her. I took a friend with me. He’s kind of square. I told him he should come with me and see what it’s like. He decided to come. We all fuck her. Everyone’s regrouping and everything before we leave later that night. Why did I hear this fool telling the girl, “you don’t have to do this. You need a man who will settle you down.”

I couldn’t believe it. I walked in. She’s looking at him like, “man, please”. I had to get him out of there he was, making himself look like a simp. Everybody who goes over there knows what she’s like. She knows what she is. Why do some men have to fall for the hoe?

-Signed, They Fall In Love With These Hoes


Hoes be winning. Since the mid 00’s it’s been hoe season. They get the trips, the house, the ring.  You see them on the cover of magazines.

Don’t hate your friend, “Fall In Love”. There’s a legion of men who throw on their capes to save women who don’t want to be saved.


Unlike the women in the media who had a hoe come up, your group jump off either is grounded in reality or doesn’t know what all she can gain from becoming the wife of a savior type man. I appreciate her, I’ll tell you what. Y’all will say a woman that fucks multiple men at the same time has no self-worth. I don’t know about that in all cases.  I don’t really feel like trying to break down this girl’s mind, but as I look at it at this moment, our reader’s local hoe is strong minded.

I have to respect women who have their own mind. For whatever you want or require, you have to a resilient mind to get it. This ain’t the lotto. We have to go for what we want to have pleasure.

Advice Breakdown

“Fall In Love”, your friend isn’t used to this type of woman. You probably aren’t either, but you’ve managed to ignore any sagging bridges that lead into the depths of her mind.  I commend you too. Get in and get that bang. If that’s the arrangements, that’s how it has to be.


I strongly suggest you don’t invite any more men to your sex parties with Girl Hoe. If you do, there’s prospect she won’t have you back.

And yea, I’m going to say it. Dump your friend. No one needs simps like him in their lives.

I will never understand people who can’t understand fuck arrangements.

If you’re going to cry and shit with the R&B playing after the nut and all she asked you to do was break her back and keep it moving, you might as well keep your ass at home and masturbate to the internet. You’re one of those people we can’t take anywhere.

Just damn!


This concludes this round of advice from The Eroticist and Mr. Drama. Any email we haven’t answered here on the blog will be responded to privately and not posted. Look for more of The Eroticist’s Advice published her later 2014 or early 2015.

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Reader Email: How Can I Get Him Hard Again?

The Eroticist’s Advice 

Mrs. Princess I love the blog. It’s hot! Can I ask a question for the advice part?

After a man cums how long do you suck his dick to make him hard so you fuck him again? Do you have any techniques to speed up the process?

-Signed, Sucking Him Up For Round Two

Thanks for stopping by and reading! I hope I’m helping you get your weekly fix. I do have an answer for your question.

Every man is different. I don’t know yours, so all I can do is give you generalities.

Some men are quicker to gain an erection after cumming than others, and there’s a few factors that go into that. First, you must look at the age of your man. The younger he is, the sooner it can happen. If he’s older, he isn’t hopeless, but the timeframe between ejaculation and sequel erection will be longer than 15-30 minutes as opposed to how it would be with a younger man. Men reach their sexual peak at about 19 years old (boy how do I miss getting my back blown out by some tenders when was I was 18–mmph! scrumptious).  At that age all men are more likely to cum then get hard again faster than you can blink, but cumming isn’t the same as having an orgasming.

Think of cumming more as the organic result of the act of sex. If you need more clarification of what I’m talking about, check out this post on multi-orgasmic men I wrote not long ago. He could be experiencing much more without releasing any ejaculate. This is something that is ageless too, and it’s possible for any man to experience.

But how does one get their man hard again if they don’t want to wait for nature to take an unassisted course?

My Advice:

Hit his zones.


The picture above  shows the erogenous zones of both the male and female anatomies. Everything in deep red is a spot to access to get your partner turned on. My personal favorites are the neck (side-right), and the V of his crotch. The inner thigh is a good one too. The V is my first go to when I need him erect again quickly.

Graze it with the side of your face, your lips. Blow on it softly. Lick it. Be the turtle to win this race.

Keep your eyes on his dick. Watch it slowly rise. Cup his balls. Suck the tip, then slip all the way down. The dick should be ready for riding in minutes.

That shit should have him begging you to give up your secrets so that he can know how to evade your powers when he just doesn’t want to be reigned over. But will he put up a fight?  He will be sliding into you before he can say “pound me”.





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If you have a sexual thing going on you could use some advice about,  write to TheEroticistsAdvice at g mail dot com (make it look like a real email address before sending), and your question will be answered on this blog on Tuesday. Identities are kept anonymous. 

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Reader Email: Fucking On The Curb

The Eroticist’s Advice 

Hi Ms. Eroticist. I have a question.

Is it normal for public displays of affection to lead to public sex?

–Sex in public places


Dear “Sex in Public Places”,

Hmmm. This is kind of a tough one for me. As wide open as I am here, I’m very private otherwise. I tell and show what I please at my own comfort level, yet I do understand that others are much more open than me with their sex lives.

Is it normal for a peck on the cheek, or a swat on the ass in public to turn into full on banging? Not in my life, but there is indeed a distinction I must make between sex in public and sex in front of the public.

Sex in public could happen behind a quiet corner of a department store next to the men’s pants, or fingering her under the table at an outdoor restaurant. In both scenes, the two have must use discretion in their play, and this is not the same as pulling out your junk in the line at the movie box office and shoving it in. A little sneaking and freaking in the parking lot in the car during lunch hour at a bustling, fast food joint can be a rush, but so is definitely not on the level with riding it out in PlayLand. The latter will get you banned and arrested I’m sure.


In “Sex in Public Place’s” question, there were no clues as to what they meant exactly, but if they did mean sex in front of the public as I’ve defined it, they must consider themselves an exhibitionist. To exhibit sex or simulate it in public is normal at varying degrees. Children do it all the time, small babes. Wouldn’t a girl who wears shorts up in her ass fall into the category of exhibiting her sexuality? I do think so.

Again I‘d like to point out, this week we have another reader who writes in with a question that seems to seek approval of their sexual activities. I am not one to tell you you are wrong.  What I will do is make suggestions.


Advice Breakdown 

Assess your lovemaking sessions. If sex in the public, or in front of people outside of your private spaces has already been problematic for you, address the amount of time you are putting into sex. Are you being fulfilled having enough time when you have sex? Is it rushed? Are you getting enough attention orally? Is the lovemaking not as fierce as you want it to be?

As I’ve talked to people over the years, one thing I notice is that many people believe that a vibrant sex life is one where the partners have multiple acts of sex in a matter of hours, but the acts themselves are only short bursts. If this is true for you “Sex in Public Places”,  spend more time finessing the atmosphere to bring about more closeness when you are grinding down for the most dripping wet, puddling sex possible with you.

Take it to the glass, and make it last. Mmmm


“Uh-uh-uh. Ohhhhhh pound it! Give. To. Me. Ohhh. Ah-aaaaahhhhhhh.”

Mmmm… That’s the stuff. From sheets to the streets, all I ask you freaks to do is make it naaaasty.  Just don’t catch any charges and expect me to help you out or anything. No my brotha, you’re on your own!

–Meet me back here next week when we answer one reader’s question on oral and the age old question of how long to wait.

Keep the questions coming! If you have a question for The Eroticist to answer, write to TheEroticistsAdvice at g mail dot com (make it look like a real email address before sending), and your question will be answered on this blog the following Tuesday. 

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Reader Email: Salty, Sticky Snowballs In His Mouth

The Eroticist’s Advice 

Dear Eroticist,

Is it okay for my girlfriend to give me a surprise snowball? We’ve been together over a year.

–Always surprised.

Dear “Always Surprised”,

Before I jump into answering your question, let me take time to  give a breakdown of your question for the novices.

I am not sure of the level of sexual education of my readers when it comes to fetishes and other diversions of what the Average Joe would call the norm, so I will briefly take time to school the ignorant of what exactly a snowball is.

Ahem! Shall we?

A snowball in the terms of sex play is the same in color as the snowballs we make outside during winter. It is white, but this type of snowball is also sticky, sometimes slippery. Some would say slimy. Eh, maybe.

Where it comes from is deep within a man’s balls. The ejaculate is the meat and potatoes of the sex snowball. It is that which makes it sticky, but it doesn’t quite come together to be more than what the receiver can swallow until the receiver decides to share it with the partner who spit it, or another present who wants a taste.

That’s right, the snowball isn’t exactly a snowball until the ejaculate has been swapped and spilled into the mouth of one partner from another.



Everyone on the same page? Good!

Now, let’s get down to business.

Our reader wrote in to ask a question on a subject which seems to concern two issues: social taboos and possibly respect. I am not sure of the numbers or average of couples who engage in snowball sex play, but I am confident in asserting most men of those couples would not admit they like it and take part in it if confronted with the topic in a public forum.

Ask the average, hard-working man would he eat his cum, and you will likely get an emphatic “hell no!”.

There’s something special about tasting yourself, and a large number of men would akin such an act as feminine. Do I agree with them? Not really. I say, “how bold is one to be for them to ask someone else to taste them and not taste themselves”. I think that’s more offensive.

Still, one has to be comfortable in their own sex life. To cross such social boundaries, whether real or perceived, one should take the courtesy of discussing play that may make one feel uncomfortable.

For reader “Always Surprised”, here’s My Advice:

Before you have sex with her again, have a sit down about this and hash out your issue with her on the matter. Don’t walk away from the topic until you have set clear boundaries of what you would like out of sex with her, what is completely off-limits, and what you are willing to work your way into doing. Be firm and resilient to any sex play which you feel violates you.

Make a trade-off. What else can she do to you, or you for her gratification, in place of snowballing? Attack this problem as adamantly as it requires. Although society has likely had its influence on you as far  what society says is feminine and wrong for a man to take part in sexually, it’s more to do with what you think of your own practices behind closed doors.

If it’s the taste that’s mostly taking you by surprise, clean up your diet. You know what they always say, more natural fruits and juices, and less of the bitter foods and meats, and your cum will taste better in no time.

How’s that for sucking it all down in one gulp?

If nothing else, turn your back to her and run in the opposite direction when she comes up for the passing.

You don’t have to take it.

I mean, can you really still call it a surprise?


Wait, no.

Was this email really just an opportunity for “Always Surprised” to swap his semen stories with me? Sir, no thanks.

Snowballs aren’t for me. I like my cum hot and down my own hatch. Thank you very much!

–See ya next week when we will read and advise a reader on taking it to the streets and lying down and grinding that meat. Hot pavement be damned? We’ll see!


If you have a question for The Eroticist to answer, write to TheEroticistsAdvice at g mail dot com (make it look like a real email address before sending), and your question will be answered on this blog the following Tuesday. 

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The Eroticist Is Now Your Sex Adviser

Need more than one of my 1,000 Tips for Heart Attack Inducing Sex? Got something personal you want La Drama Princess to advise you on. It’s simple. Send me a question or issue you need advice on, such as how to handle a scorned lover who just won’t move on, how to love anal sex, when to ask for a threesome, or what’s stopping her from opening up to you. Your question will appear in “The Eroticist’s Advice”  a new column I’ve started on this blog.


Write to me, the sexual, mental dominatrix and erotic author, or my beau,  my cunningly freaky co-star Mr. Drama using the email address: TheEroticistsAdvice at gmail dot com (put that all together as a real address before you try to send). Together we have decades of experience, and we won’t even charge you. We’re very open-minded, so don’t worry, we’ve heard just about everything, and probably done just about half of it.

Questions and answers will be posted on Tuesday every week. Identities will not be revealed. Stay tuned next week for our first reader email and our answers.