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3 Things To Tie That Ass Up With Tonight

I get horny when I think of being tied down so much that I squirm around. Then when I’m tied up, the panic and anxiety is a rush. What’s next and how good can you make it feel is what I’m thinking while restrained? But I don’t keep a bunch of shit around bought for bondage play. I don’t suspect most do, either. What do you use in a pinch?

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Here’s three household items to use as restraints during bondage play:

1. A pillow case. Take a pillow case and slip it under the elbows of your partner. While they are on their knees and  you’re banging behind, their face will succumb to gravity and the ass will too, to give better diving in and out positioning while they are on their knees or lying on their stomach.

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2. Medium-size, nylon, dog collars. Fasten these to the submissive’s wrists and ankles. Use leashes on each one, then tie the leashes to the bed posts for bed restraints, or use a strap to connect two or all four of the collars to tie the wrists and/or ankles together. When not in play, easily stuff them under the bed when you’re done.

3. Sheets. Wrap them around the wrists or ankles, elbows or knees. You can secure to them bedposts or tie multiple sheets together the same as with the leashes to the collars to restrain ankles and elbows together.

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Tip: Never use thin materials to tie up your partner. Imagine how it would feel to have an extension cord digging into your skin as you sweat and wiggle around getting banged. Not a nice thought is it? Ribbons are pretty, but they pose a risk too, as well as pantyhose (which we’d considered before, then I thought longer).

Whether you buy pre-made bondage gear, or DIY at home in a pinch, always use things that are easy to get out of. Anything can happen (house catching on fire, someone has a heart attack, the kids come busting in the room, etc.). You need to get out of that shit fast.

Be safe.  Use care. Don’t be an asshole.

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Sweet Submissive Pussy: Giving It Up For A Better Relationship

Facebook is where we all go isn’t it, to have the most stimulating conversations? I don’t, but I always end up finding something interestingly repetitive there in a group or on some super talkative friend’s page. In such places, I read the same points made against submission, and now and then I’m surprised by the opinions of it. A religious mention of God’s intention for a wife to submit to her husband comes up every time. You ought to know we ain’t doing that here, but there is a question relevant for this brand of blog. Does that biblical rule refer to sex too, or are people taking it there on their own? Although some women claim to be heavily religious, they buck that submissive conversation every time. A new admission I read was from a woman who said she didn’t truly understand what submission was in the first place.

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Submission only is allowing another person the lead because you believe in their ability to do such a job with your best interest as they would their own. Submission isn’t about weakness or crawling on your knees. Why would do people submit though? I submit in my relationship, sexually, and not, because I have to be dominate in EVERY other aspect of my life. I need a time and to be with a person who allows me to have the other side. I don’t even think I’m good at dominating because I don’t care to do it. So maybe it is I have to lead, but I am not a dom. In my relationships, I have to be submissive for it to last. The facts show if I am appointed to dominate, I become abusive. I think that is out of anger. I recognize love isn’t damaging. So a man who can’t lead me, has to leave me.

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I know that everyone won’t submit. I will, but I am not doing so to someone who is hurtful, who wants to crush my spirit, or who is a submissive themselves. I think that is a benchmark for deciding to submit to a partner. Leaders, doms, charges, need a tender heart to not hurt the ones they love. Would the submissives out there agree with me when I say submission and domination definitely aren’t about abuse? It isn’t, but threshold of pain and intensity desired is different for everyone. You tell me how it looks right here.

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Get love how you can. If you want it submissively, have it. It’s perfectly fine. Remember, it’s in the Bible, or so I heard.

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