Sweet Submissive Pussy: Giving It Up For A Better Relationship

Facebook is where we all go isn’t it, to have the most stimulating conversations? I don’t, but I always end up finding something interestingly repetitive there in a group or on some super talkative friend’s page. In such places, I read the same points made against submission, and now and then I’m surprised by the opinions of it. A religious mention of God’s intention for a wife to submit to her husband comes up every time. You ought to know we ain’t doing that here, but there is a question relevant for this brand of blog. Does that biblical rule refer to sex too, or are people taking it there on their own? Although some women claim to be heavily religious, they buck that submissive conversation every time. A new admission I read was from a woman who said she didn’t truly understand what submission was in the first place.

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Submission only is allowing another person the lead because you believe in their ability to do such a job with your best interest as they would their own. Submission isn’t about weakness or crawling on your knees. Why would do people submit though? I submit in my relationship, sexually, and not, because I have to be dominate in EVERY other aspect of my life. I need a time and to be with a person who allows me to have the other side. I don’t even think I’m good at dominating because I don’t care to do it. So maybe it is I have to lead, but I am not a dom. In my relationships, I have to be submissive for it to last. The facts show if I am appointed to dominate, I become abusive. I think that is out of anger. I recognize love isn’t damaging. So a man who can’t lead me, has to leave me.

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I know that everyone won’t submit. I will, but I am not doing so to someone who is hurtful, who wants to crush my spirit, or who is a submissive themselves. I think that is a benchmark for deciding to submit to a partner. Leaders, doms, charges, need a tender heart to not hurt the ones they love. Would the submissives out there agree with me when I say submission and domination definitely aren’t about abuse? It isn’t, but threshold of pain and intensity desired is different for everyone. You tell me how it looks right here.

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Get love how you can. If you want it submissively, have it. It’s perfectly fine. Remember, it’s in the Bible, or so I heard.

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Reader Email: Her Clit Is Too Little. Help!

The Eroticist’s Advice

Have you ever had one take the panties off and the clit was no where in sight? Okay, well you can easily relate to this reader. Hold my hand. I’m about to teach you something.

Dear La Drama Princess,

I have this new girl, and this is the second one I’ve had who has a super small clit. I ain’t into dicks, but a big clit is what I prefer sucking on when I’m giving my girl oral. I pull her lips back and try to suck, but it’s too hard to keep it out for me to give her good oral. I have big lips and her shit is super small. I stick licking, but I want to give her the full experience. She uses toys too when I’m licking her pussy. What can I do to get to her clit better?

-Signed, If Her Clit Was Any Smaller…


Why do y’all have to hate on small clits? Like small dicks, the people who own them have feelings too. Don’t make them cry because nature didn’t spend much time on their sexual appendages. It’s not their fault.

Dear reader,

I  ain’t gone tell no fibs. I don’t know much about the itty bitty clitty committee and it’s board of directors. I’ve seen them. I don’t have one, and I praise thee for not having such an affliction.

Smaller size clits are as normal as bigger ones, they all have the same amount of nerve endings.

Mr. Drama, yes, like our reader, has had to struggle mode with them. What he advises for sucking and licking a smaller clit is to push the hood back as far as you can get it. Duh! Reader, I know you know that. I wonder though if you are skinning the hood all the way back?

My partner in oral also advises not to suck too hard. Keep the sucking momentum on an even kiln. While you are sucking, you must employ digital vaginal stimulation as the clit is easier to slip from your lips because it is so small and she’s moving around while you’re making her cum. You don’t want her almost their and your simple ass loses the clit from your mouth. Shame!

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Like this, yet use your other hand to expose the small clit completely. Hook your fingers up instead of down. I don’t know why people still turn their fingers down to play in the pussy. What are you doing? Stroking the rectum? Sir/Ma’am! Just fuck the ass.

Personally, I don’t trust this shit, and I want all of my readers and their lovers to get off, and well, so I thought back to some research I’d conducted on toys and remembered this one.

Advice Breakdown 

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For solo or partnered play.

 

The old school way is well and good, but this update to small clit struggle sucking seems like a true winner.

By looking at the diagram, you can see, you can insert it. The curved center of it is what you push side. While inside the vagina, it will stimulate the g-spot as her pussy contracts and she is moving around.

The arms of the thing sticking up, that’s what will hold open her labia (her pussy lips) which will also serve to spread the hood back from covering the small clit. This makes the toy handsfree for partnered sex, and for solo. You can get your pussy ate easily, the clit served, or stroke it when no one is around.

The Intimate Spreader by You 2 Toys received 4 out of 5 stars by Property of Potter (see her full review here), and retails for under $30 USD, which isn’t too bad for the pay off.

It is made of silicone and has a flexible wire inside it to make it bendable. FYI: You 2 Toys has also made a battery powered version, view it here.

If the reader in our email, or any of you try this, I’d love your personal review. I have no reason to use it, but just as a referral for my small clit friends out there, I could eat up the knowledge. Pun intended?

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Bless y’all. I’ll take my thumb clit, and get on out of here. See ya next week!

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Lesbians: Using Dildos, But Unattracted To Men. Reality To Porn

It’s the strangest thing about lesbians that any person can question. “Why do lesbians use dildos and vibrators if they aren’t attracted to men?” It’s a vagina. It was made for penetration. G-spots were made to be rubbed until orgasm. Dildos can help with that. Big whoop! Personally, my question always is, “why is it in lesbian porn movies and scenes (girl-on-girl sex because the actors aren’t always lesbian), especially in scenes with black chicks, the women hardly ever just eat the pussy?” In real-life, we don’t usually question if lesbians eat pussy, but if we only had porn as an indication of what happens in real-life relationships, dildos and vibrators would be all we would know lesbians for using.

Makes sense? No?

Here it is: when a family member comes out as a lesbian, grandma didn’t faint because she was worried about Tonya getting stuck by a train of dildo toting chicks. She fell out and landed on the china cabinet because she just couldn’t understand her baby going down on some sticky pussy, with her mouth.

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For a long time there,  there was an outcry for black lesbian porn movies and scenes to chill on the dildo play. Dildos were crutches that women used in adult movies to not really have sex with a woman. That’s how women who’ve spoken out about this issue viewed what was happening.

The real-life lesbians I know, who have sex with women only, they don’t use sex toys. It’s their own fingers, pussies, and anything else, but no dildos or vibrators. No strap-ons either. They have shared with me that they do not see a need to use aids or props in their sex lives. My friends are a small group, and there are women who have sex with women and they do use toys. Am I saying they aren’t lesbian, that those women have defaulted their sexuality as bisexual?

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No.

Using sex toys is a personal preference.  Indeed, they were created as aids in sexual activity. Couples use them to enhance sex play. To only have sex with them, every time, yes, in my opinion that makes the use of them a crutch.

When watching straight porn, count the dildos and vibrators you see. Compare that number to the amount you see in black lesbian porn. The black lesbian porn will always have an outrageous amount of fabricated dicks in it compared to any other porn out there. White lesbian porn, gay porn, orgy porn, they all have way less sex toys in them than the ones with black girls on black girls. Don’t get me started on black BBW lesbian porn.

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People will read this and say, “who cares, it’s porn”. I care! And I suspect you really do too. People watch porn for ideas. Some say that we make our ideals about sex based on the negativity porn creates about sex. I think that is true for some people, although I don’t think that’s widespread, but if it is true, we don’t want women to believe they need to buy a box of dildos and straps to use with their girl.

That’s just wrong. The human body is well equipped to excite without the support of prosthetic extensions.

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I know. Me. I actually said that.

A toy is good. I like them. I use them. I don’t want to see them all the time when a pussy could get off much better with just the tongue and the hand. ESPECIALLY when the scene is super boring with fake sounds and sandpaper coochies. In my research, tongues and hands make the pussy creamier, and her eyes roll up in her head, much more like they do in real-life when you use what nature gave you.

Reader Email: My Husband Cheated. Now He Wants To Have Sex With Me.

The Eroticist’s Advice

Dear Eroticist,

I’m going through. My Husband cheated and I took him back. You may ask why, but I’m not letting anyone else have my man. But now that we are back together, how do I have sex with him after all this? The sex part is very hard for me,  much harder than just having him back in the house. He’d moved with his mistress and they lived together for two months. It didn’t work out and he came back to me. I took him back. I know I was stupid for that. But he is my husband. What can I do to have sex with him again? I keep thinking about them and what it was like, and why he is back with me.

-Signed, I Can’t Fuck My Cheating Husband


Y’all are getting heavy with shit ain’tcha. Mr. Drama and I have discussed this one and we are on the same page. Let’s jump in.

You said that he is recently back living with you after living with the other woman for a short stint, and I know this has to be extremely hard to deal with on so many emotional levels. You have your commitment to your husband, and he has dashed his and now he wants to act like the lyrics of an R&B song and come crawling back.

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Look, I am not a marriage counselor, I haven’t been married, but I do know allll about emotions. “Emotional” should have been my middle name.

I feel it is good to have him back in the house with you, because it is yours together. That is part of the commitment. This is part of the whole swing of things you didn’t need to wait to get back. Giving him your body again: I won’t say do it on the first night of him lying in your marital bed.

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Advice Breakdown 

The emotions, why he didn’t have that tight emotional tie with you before the cheating to keep him from cheating, are such which needs to be investigated the hell out until you hit the heart of the matter. If he wasn’t ever the type of to open up, get real now. He isn’t going to be easy to get this out of. I say to be direct in what you need to know. Speak your heart and share yours and require him to do the same. There is no real work he can do if he isn’t giving you the truth from his heart, not that found in his head where it’s easier to uncover things to say that he feels you want to hear, or he feels are easier to say.

If he isn’t going to open up, I say commitment is void.

You can’t be in a healthy relationship with another person by yourself. Get what I mean?

As soon as you read this tell him what you require. You must have an open stream of communication about what he expects out of your relationship post-affair, and you need to set clear requirements for him to make you trust him again. And for you to fuck him again, you must be able to trust him again.

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As the trust grows, I feel that you will want to have sex with your husband. You will open yourself up to him to come to have you. With the trust back, what she did with him, and what he did to her, why he liked her, what is so great about her body compared to yours, and things of that nature won’t jump into your head all the time when you think of having sex with him. And I think that is what the problem is mostly anyway.

With a strong bond of trust, comes personal security.

Take your time, reader. This is a test of work ethic here.

I’m not one to easily give up, but if I felt it going that way, I’d get it over before I let him pop my coochie again.

That’s just me. And this was my regular Jane advice.

Good luck and best wishes in the good stroke coming back to your lives together.


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